Silent Conflicts

Sometimes we think as conflicts only as physical confrontations or big show downs. We think if we keep our mouths shut, then our problems will be solved. In reality, conflicts represent a differing of opinions. Often conflicts arise because poor communication may keep those involved from understanding what the other person’s opinion is, and why they have that opinion. Being silent usually doesn’t solve conflicts, it allows it to fester. Many marriages, friendships and families have been split apart because of silent conflicts.

Today let’s be motivated to solving our conflicts through open, honest, fair and respectful communication. A little motivation is all we need!

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Accountability

It’s easy to blame someone else when things don’t turn out the way we wanted. Who wants to take blame or admit to being responsible for creating a mess? Deflecting our mistakes on others is selfish. We can never fully learn from our mistakes unless we take full responsibility for them – it’s called accountability.  Each of us is responsible for our actions. We should take full responsibility for the things we do and say and the consequences that come with it.

Today let’s be motivated to being accountable for all of our actions. A little motivation is all we need!

 

Do Good Anyway

 Bad things sometimes happen to good people. Be good anyway. We should never get caught up in keeping score of the bad things that have happened to us, or how we have been wronged. Focusing our energies on the negative, yields negative results. Focus on the positives in your life and others. Never allow negative experiences to change your positive energy. Turn those undesirable experiences into positives by promising yourself to do better if you were given the opportunity.

Today let’s be motivated to always doing good and being positive. A little motivation is all we need!

Walking Away Doesn’t Always Mean Giving Up

In life we sometimes find ourselves in situations that we thought we could handle. We got into those situations on our own, and feel that we must stay the course. We think that we would be a failure if we walked away. If something is not working for us or no longer serves our purpose, then we should consider walking away. It doesn’t mean that we are giving up, it means that we choose to dedicate our time and energy to something that WILL work.

Today, let’s be motivated to analyzing our situations and making sure that they fit our purpose; and choosing to walk away if they don’t. A little motivation is all we need!

Live in the Moment

Life is about enjoying each and every moment. As you go about your day, as you go about your life, be present. Don’t just go through the motions. Use your five senses to feel, taste, smell, touch, hear and see everything around you and everything that interacts with you. Savor each moment and experience. Life is a present. But you can only enjoy it if you are present.

Today, let’s be motivated to living in the moment and savoring each of our experiences. A little motivation is all we need!

It’s Never Too Late

Don’t be fooled by people who may say it’s too late. Too late to get an education, get married, own a house, or change your life for the better. We cannot get back time wasted or a missed opportunity. But there is 24 hours in this day, and the next day. Once we have the breath of life, it’s never too late. What is it that you are purposed to do? Start now, because it’s never too late.

Today let’s be motivated to taking advantage of the opportunity that each day brings. A little motivation is all we need!

Blessings are for Everyone

Blessings are available to everyone. The universe does not put a ration on how much blessings can go around. The Creator doesn’t say “I’ve already blessed enough people, so sorry, your blessings will have to wait.” Sometimes when we see blessings pouring down on others we look at our own lives and become discouraged. We think if someone has it all, then there won’t be anything left for us. The truth is that the Most High wants to bless you just as much as the other person. But you must live in expectation of your blessings.

Today, let’s be motivated to expect our blessings. A little motivation is all we need!

 

Friendships

Friendships are wonderful relationships that enhance our lives. Friendships are defined differently by different people.  Most people would agree that having a true friend means having someone dependable in our corner at all times. Females seem to admit the importance of friendships more than males. But friendship is important to all of us. Just like any other relationship, friendships require – trust, respect, communication, honesty and love for it to work best. Most importantly, be they type of friend that you want someone else to be to you.

Today let’s be motivated to nourishing our friendships. A little motivation is all we need!

Irony of a Single Mom; 5 Signs of a Pitiful Social Life

What to do on a Saturday night on St. Thomas when the children are gone? My children’s godmother recently offered to keep my children on a Saturday night so that she can spend some time with them and give me a little free time. Yippee! A free Saturday night!

The first thing to do was find out what’s going on for the weekend; so I text a couple of my friends asking where’s the lime to find out what’s going on. “Lime” or “liming” is our word for partying or hanging out. None of them know anything. That’s the first sign of a pitiful social life: your friends, the people who actually hang out more than you, have no idea what’s going on.

I decided to text my friend Rashidi, a radio personality on the popular station 105 Jamz. Surely he should know what’s popping. And he does. His response to me: “U trying to lime?!” Second sign of a pitiful social life: no one takes you seriously when you say you want to party.

Rashidi is hosting a karaoke night with music by DJ Pete after. Sounds good. But his gig is on Friday. My free day is Saturday. The only thing he knows that’s happening on Saturday is something that – let’s say I would have been delighted to attend 10 years ago. Just as I finished my texting session with Rashidi, my daughter brings me an invitation to our cousins’ 10th birthday party on the beach on Sunday. Third sign of a pitiful social life: your children have more invites than you do. But it was still Friday, so I remained hopeful.

Saturday morning I went on a cleaning spree. After all, I would be partying my night away, right. So I decided to do something worthwhile with my day. By 8 p.m. after cleaning, dropping off my children to their godmother and shopping, I decided to text a few more of my friends to see what I should get into. They all mention the same event that Rashidi mentioned the day before. But like me, none of them really want to go to that either. I log on to Facebook. I can get some hints of what’s happening there. Shawna has already said that whatever we do, she isn’t coming. That’s a bummer.  Finally Tiffy mentions a club, this new club that we can go to. Now, Tiffy is a chic that knows how to have a good time. But not even she has been to this club before, so we’re all skeptical. By now it’s 10:30 p.m. My eyes are getting heavy. Fourth sign of a pitiful social life: you’re tired before the party begins.

I’m not quite sure what happened between 11 p.m. on 2:46 a.m. That’s what time it was when I realized that I had fallen asleep. I woke up around 8 a.m. Sunday morning feeling great! Fifth sign of a pitiful social life: sleeping the whole night through feels just as good as “liming.”

Well there you have it. They irony of a single mom – when we finally have some free time, we don’t know what to do with it. I guess I’ll be homebound for the next few weekends until Kassav’s performance at the Reichhold Center on Oct. 28. With this Saturday behind me, I’m really looking forward to Kassav. Bye… we have a beach party to get ready for.

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